Trust The Dots
They say that luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity, and I mostly think they’re right. But what they don’t tell you is, opportunities – like people – come in all shapes and sizes. Some big, some small. Some good and some not so good. Opportunities can come and sweep you off your feet but they can also come down on top of you like a ton of bricks.
I had the latter happen to me just recently. I was offered a job interview somewhere that incidentally, I would have killed to work at a year ago. Boy oh boy, a lot can change in a year.
So I asked some questions and long story short decided it was not something I wanted for my life right now. Yes, I absolutely may have made the ‘wrong’ decision. Anyone who’s watched or heard Steve Jobs’ graduation address will understand the notion of Dogma as he explains it:
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone elses life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”
I am not here to discuss whether I made the right or wrong decision in this particular case, I’m here to reassure you that you can make what appears to be the wrong decision and it can absolutely be the right one. Sometimes, you just have to trust your gut. It might not lead you down the direct path to your dreams, but it sure will lead you there eventually. Life is about the journey so sit down, buckle up and enjoy the ride.
I am 100% certain that I’ve made the right decision, for me. Turning down things that come my way is not something I do very often at all. I could probably count the times I’ve done it on one hand. In fact, one of my biggest weaknesses is saying no. I like to make other people happy and I like to be a go-getter. But in this case, I think saying no has become easily as important as saying yes. Only you can know the direction you want your life to take. No one else can tell you what you want and no one else is in charge of going out there and getting it.
We’re here for a good time not a long time. Make your own path and light it up as you walk it, baby.
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Thank you Colleen for suggesting I watch the most inspiring video of all time. And thank you Danelle for listening to my ranting.
Image from the one and only amazing Nanamee.
This couldn’t have come at a better time for me! I’ve been really tapping into my gut feelings on things and knowing what I need to say yes to and no to (I’m the same as you – doling out enthusiastic yeses to everything until I realise I can’t possibly do it all!)
It’s such a liberating feeling taking the control back, evaluating what serves your needs and the person you are TODAY… it shows you where you’ve grown. I always say ‘doubt means don’t.’ Sounds like you made the right decision lovely! xx
It’s a hard life being a ‘yeser’! I think having that gut feeling is so important. It means your insides know what you want. Imagine not having it! That would be so concerning to me. And you’re absolutely right, it is *so* liberating! Almost like a moment of you becoming who you want to be. Slowly molding away. Thank you for the lovely comment! xx Glad I could return a little bit of inspiration.
I had the same thing last year, an opportunity to work somewhere where I really wanted to, but only part time. It just didn’t feel right so I didn’t. And I think it was the right decision in the end for a number of reasons. Love this piece of inspiration :)
Thank you! It always seems to work out in the end, right? And if it hasn’t worked out, it’s not the end! Glad you went with your feelings x
Holla GF! I was waiting to see what you posted after I saw your little comment on my post!
You’ve seen I’m in the same place… And I’m jumping into my new adventure at total full force, which is freakin scary, but it’s what you gotta do.
I was reading the 4 Hour Work Week book by Tim Ferriss too, and he says the same, about living in the now, rather than saving everything till later. You just do what you feel is right, and either way you come out of it, you would have learned something, which is all beneficial to you growing and becoming the best person you can.
Onwards and upwards lady! xx